Listening to yourself as Highly sensitive person

From when we were a children, we were told we are - too sensitive, too dramatic, crying too much, not being enough for this society , not arguing enough, letting out emotion run the show etc, etc - if you are someone who resonates with a description of a highly sensitive person you know exacly what I'm talking about.

That left us wanting to change ourselves to fit, to be liked, to survive. At one point I absolutely dropped everything I loved because I was sure it is wrong and weird for being like this.

Ashamed of liking poetry, for wanting to help others, for empathy - being called stupid or naive for trusting people and wanting the highest good for all.

When I discovered being HSP in 2020 I went on a long journey of healing and accepting me - as I was.

Being on this journey for more than 3 years gave me loads of unconditional self love and healing, but I often still fall into the thinking I might be wrong or that my intuition is wrong - specially when it comes to parenting.

I would ask for an opinion and 80% of people will say things that I am not feeling good about, I have this narrative in my head but...

"It is what all of them do" - and when I ask my fellow 20% of HSPs they understand me, and they are doing what I would do.

So I came to this conclusion that I can do what I feel is right for me, my family and this situation. I have to stop asking people who won't get it anyway, who can do differently - I can't.

It is hard as those childhood little T traumas are going to the surface, it is hard for us empaths because we can easyily get lost in other people's opinions and emotions - sometimes still not knowing when it's us...

What helps is definitely spending loads of time alone - to get to know myself and my energy better, to know what I really think and feel before everyone else. Taking a pause before any action or decision making, to again ask myself really deeply of what I want, feel and think.

I am sharing as if you feel this way too, you are not alone. No matter what others say - ask yourself first, I know it's easy to ask all those people and we are always afraid we simply may be wrong, but your heart knows best - follow it.