What even is Self-discovery and why we need it?

Ah Self-discovery... I talk about it a lot in my world but what even is that and why (specially) Highly sensitive people needs it... The Google defenition is :

And this is exacly that, you may think yeah obviously I know myself, why I have to do all this work around it...

Highly sensitive people or empaths needs this kind of work because we can do easily get caught up in other people emotions, problems, etc. So sometimes we don't even really know who we are.

I have been walking around for around 27 years of not really knowing myself, it was when in 2020 I was a first time mum and pandemic hit, I had to be on my own and my new born son for most of the time as my husband was still working. The first thing that amazed me was that longer I don't see anyone I felt better, I was feeling okey with what I am wearing, what I am reading, what I am doing every single day. Then I realised that everything in my life was done to show other people and not for myself, to impress, to prove, to be accepted, to be liked, to fit in, to please.

My Self-discovery journey started with the test of being HSP on https://hsperson.com/test/

After seeing a post on Instagram, everything started to make sense. I was definitely not weird, just different, with different nervous system needs.

Then I started digging deeper and deeper, simple things like ;I found out that I actually like colour red - my whole life when I wanted something red my mum wouldn't let me as SHE didn't like red - so I was sure I don't like red too. I got my first red dress, I felt amazing in it!

Then from doing little things like being on my own to decide on what I want to eat or what I want to do was such a game changer! I was more calm, relaxed, less resentment towards others because I stopped filling the gaps of other people life's but started to create my own.

That work is essential to feel in control of your own life, to feel like you are the driver and not always at the back. We highly sensitive people are really at risk of not knowing ourselves because we like to serve, be the helper, not to cause trouble, be the nicest in the room so we think it's okey and that that's our role in the society, and yes, we can be amazing at it, but we cannot loose the sight of who we really are or want because then we may be very unhappy.

If you never did anything like that - start small! From choosing what you want for dinner without asking anyone else first or trying on this new colour, or take yourself to the park and see what you want to do without anyone else telling you!

This is the first post about Self-discovery second one will focus on self-expression and the last one on how we can actually use mindfulness and creativity to be able to know ourselves and express our true nature freely! Keep your eyes around this space for next 2 weeks.

Sending loads of love!

Greta from

www.littlemindfullife.co.uk