Why it's important to do things alone when you are a Sensitive Soul

If you are Highly Sensitive person or an Empath or any other sensitive type you know perfectly how easily it is for us to absorb others energy, moods and personalities, that is why I want to talk about doing things on your own and how does it build self-confidence and strengthens the most important relationship we ever had - with ourselves.

I was never comfortable to do things on my own, as very anxious and sensitive person I couldn't even stand a thought of being on my own, even at home. From living with parents moving in with my husband, I was in fact never alone. I didn't know who I am when no one else was around.

From the childhood programming and school we had clear message if someone was alone - it meant something is seriously wrong with them... That's why I always felt awkward to go for a lunch on my own, cinema or yoga lesson. I absolutely understand that we are a social beings and that basically helped us to survive till this day and relationships are essential for our overall wellbeing, but some individuals like empaths, introverts or Highly sensitive people need this alone time - to think, process things and really tune in what is going on inside.

Without that it's hard for us to separate our feeling from feelings of others, it's hard to focus or even know what we truly want, or who we are, so we walk around filling those gaps around everyone else's e life... Like I did, "what would you like to eat and watch? " oh just whatever you want" not even thinking about my own needs!

Since I've been working hard on anxiety and self-development I actually can do things on my own, I would go alone with the intention of hanging out with myself to get to know this fascinating human being with who, I will spend the rest of my life, the only person which will be there till I take my last breath - how different this mindset is!

To compare - year ago, I went to "happy" festival with bunch of other ladies but we all went different ways - i felt completely out of place, anxiously checking my phone all the time to look busy, feeling weird as everybody had someone with them, it was too hot and I just wanted to go home.

This year few days ago I went to yoga festival on my own and although I did ask few people if they wanted to go, no one could so I thought its the best time to practice that self - discovery journey again, even when the last time wasn't too good.

It was really exciting but my first thought was that I have to be social and talk to strangers, Then I evaluated if that thought is even mine... Would I think that because society is pushing that on us all the time? Be interesting, be nice, be social, be likeable... ALL THE TIME AROUND PEOPLE!

So I simply decided to let go, before I went in, I set an intention to be just myself and if there is a an opportunity for a nice conversation and meet new people - absolutely yes but if not, I won't push that just because I'm scared to be the only one who is alone.

And i absolutely had an amazing time, few awesome conversations, met nice people but I also honoured my self, had nice lunch under the tree alone, wrote a poem, watched trees and birds - absorbing all that there was, in that given moment, so precious, so grateful. I didn't feel awkward or out of place, it was just the best.

So why you should do things on your own, specially as Sensitive type?

*To get to know yourself better

*To simply be in the present moment without a need to talk.

*To explore what your energy feel like

*To rest

*To experience new things and watch yourself reacting to them

*To get out of your comfort zone

*To build a self-trust, that you will always be okey, because YOU have your own back.

*To show your brain that there is nothing to worry about and kick anxiety ass!

*To understand that your sensitivity is your gift and you don't have to be this loud social butterfly, that's the job of other people. You can be soft and yourself and if it's s meant to be, you will meet this person or talk to someone. Just trust.

*To see that you are absolutely capable of meeting new people as an adult, even if it's hard.

*To have an opportunity to celebrate yourself for doing things on your own.

And much more...!

So today my little mindful task for you is to go somewhere on your own, I know we are often alone at home but try to get this new environment experience and take a notepad with you, write down everything that is happening inside you, are you anxious? Are you excited? Do you feel like you belong or out of place? Write it all down and accept - because it is all okey, hang out with yourself and get to know this magical being!

Take care,

Greta.